Bonding and attachment are important for all babies, but they can be especially challenging for parents of babies who are in the NICU. The NICU can be a stressful environment, and it can be difficult to get to know your baby when they are hooked up to machines and surrounded by medical staff.
However, there are still many things you can do to bond with your baby in the NICU. Here are a few tips:
- Talk to your baby. Even if your baby can’t understand you yet, talking to them will help them get used to your voice and your presence. You can even record your voice and bring a small music box for times when you may not be there.
- Sing to your baby. Music can be soothing and calming for babies, and it can also help you feel more connected to them.
- Hold your baby. If your baby is stable enough, you can hold them for short periods of time. Skin-to-skin contact can be especially beneficial for bonding.
- Massage your baby. Gentle massage can help to relax your baby and promote bonding. If baby needs a little more time before they can be held, you can massage the little hands and feet (check with your nurse first) which can build connection.
- Read to your baby. Reading to your baby can help to stimulate their mind and create a sense of security.
- Scent. Sleep with a small thin blanket (think muslin) or other comfort item. Once your scent is on it, ask the nurses to swaddle baby in. A onesie can be just as effective so it may depend on what baby is allowed to wear at any given time.
- Be patient. Bonding with a baby in the NICU takes time. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t feel an instant connection. Just keep spending time with your baby and talking to them, and you will eventually develop a strong bond.
Here are some additional tips for bonding and attachment with your baby in the NICU:
- Ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask the NICU staff questions about your baby’s care and how you can best bond with them.
- Get involved in your baby’s care. If possible, participate in your baby’s care, such as feeding them or changing their diapers. This will help you feel more involved in their life and create a sense of parentage.
- Find a support group. Talking to other parents who are going through the same thing can be helpful. There are many support groups available for parents of babies in the NICU. Don’t be afraid to be vocal with your friends and family about what you need from them too.
- Self-care. It’s important to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally during this time. Get enough sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly. It’s also important to talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling.
Bonding and attachment with your baby in the NICU can be challenging, but it is possible. By following these tips, you can create a strong bond with your baby and help them thrive.
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