I’m just coming back from my little sister’s bachelorette weekend. She is eight years younger than me making her Gen Z and me millenial.
I planned the weekend with our cousin (who is also Gen Z) for a group of 13 girls.
Throughout the planning and this past weekend, I learned a few things that I think we should all stop to think about.
- They are truly a girls girl. Two girls were attracted to the same guy, the guy showed more interest in one than the other. The rejected girl brushed it off and proceeded to talk about the other girl to the guy. There was no competition or jealousy.
- They are loyal likers. You’ve got something going on in your life? They support you. You post on Instagram, they like it.
- They’re hype girls. You wanna wear tennis shoes with a cute dress? Gorg. You don’t know how to do makeup but you want something glam? Don’t worry I gotchu. Wanna borrow the blue eyeliner? What’s mine is yours. You think you look ugly in your skintight bodycon tube dress? Oh, Mamacita the Puerto Rican are going to be panting tonight.
- It’s all hands on deck. While I was the main person for food and activities they really picked up the slack with cleaning and organizing. And making sure to buy or get things I may have missed — without any judgment.
- It’s ok to have tummy time. While they’re all friends and hang out all the time we incorporated downtime in the itinerary. One because my sister asked for it but also they all needed it. And IT’S OK. You don’t have to be “on” the whole time. The itinerary doesn’t have to be full 100% of the time.
- Confident women make a scene. I couldn’t help but catch their confidence. They all wore what they wanted. And they all lifted each other up. And as we were walking the streets of Puerto Rico, we turned heads. We were 13 beautiful women but more importantly, we all walked with confidence and that was incredibly empowering.
- They listened. We didn’t have any real deep conversations, but when they asked a question they genuinely wanted to know the answer.
Here’s the thing. These girls don’t judge each other. There was no jealousy. They were all just genuinely happy to be celebrating my sister and enjoying a mini vacay in beautiful Puerto Rico. They were thankful my cousin and I planned the whole thing and it was planned well. They were grateful to just be there.
There’s something beautiful about being around a bunch of women and not feeling like I have to compete or one up each other.
In a world where we often hear about competition between women, it was refreshing to experience a weekend where sisterhood and support reigned supreme. These young women showed me that confidence, kindness, and loyalty are key to creating genuine connections. And It’s something I’ll continue to strive for as I build lasting relationships as a mom. I left the weekend feeling inspired by their ability to uplift one another without a second thought. It was more than just a fun trip; it was a reminder of the strength that comes from women truly supporting each other.
