The REAL Mom Summer campaign was created to redefine sexy and what “hot” moms are.

We’ve all seen it..the “hot” mom summer memes. So we decided to take it up a notch! In partnership with Three Boudoir, Orlando Mom Collective is REDEFINING SEXY.

We want to promote body positivity and share how we feel about the unrealistic societal “norms” pushed on moms.

THAT is a REAL “HOT” MOM…the confident mom that does not let society determine her worth or tell her what hot and sexy are!

Age: 40
Occupation: Social Entrepreneur, owner Orlando Mom Collective
Kids: 4 (ages 20, 18, 10, 6)

Sexy is self-confidence and self-love.

It is HARD to break through the noise that women are exposed to regularly about what “sexy” is. We are flooded with ads, social media and clothing that TELLS us what WE should be. Sexy does not have to be lingerie. Sexy does not have to be a small waist, big lips and long hair. Sexy should be whatever a woman says it is for HER!

Age: 33
Occupation: Occupation Registered Dietitian, turned SAHM and OMC Executive Assistant
Kids: 2

Sexy is celebrating your body in its current stage and not wishing to be back in a previous version.

This current stage means a body that grew a whole other human or two or six and that is worth celebrating, not wishing away.

Age: 33
Occupation: Entrepreneur
Kids: 2

Sexy means feeling comfortable and confident in my own body no matter what it looks like.

Age: 46
Occupation: Former teacher now SAHM, fiber artist, and seamstress
Kids: 3 Kids: 22yo girl and 4&7yo boys

My definition of sexy is is similar to the actual definition in the sense of something that is sexy creates an arousal or an attraction to someone or something. For me, in a human, that arousal comes from being comfortable around and being able to have fun and laugh with your partner. Using the word comfortable I can describe that as being content with who you are, that you’re happy and that you don’t feel the need to change for anyone else. If you feel like changing for yourself that’s your decision to make, whether you want to color your hair or adjust your weight or dress differently. Be you 100%. Sexiness is not the same for everyone as it is what causes an arousal or excitement.

However, being comfortable in who you are is sexy.

Age: 39
Occupation: Stay at home mom + Chaos Coordinator
Kids: 3 (19, 16, 13)

To me sexy is confidence, finding yourself and embracing the chaos.

Age: 35
Occupation: English professor and writer
Kids: 4 beautiful kids

To me, sexy means confidence.

Nothing is sexier than a confident woman.

Age: 38
Occupation: Social Media/Marketing Manager
Kids: 6, age 12 and under

Sexy means self love and confidence.

It’s loving myself so hard that others feel it as I walk into the room.

Age: 43
Occupation: Pediatric Nurse (RN, BSN, CPN—soon to be MSN in Dec!!!)
Kids: 3

Sexy to me means “natural”.

Age: 40
Occupation: Knowledge Manager/Content Manager
Kids: 2

To me sexy is comfort!

Being comfortable with yourself, to not follow the norms just because, to ask for help. You are comfortable when you are safe/secure and settled and to me that’s sexy.

Social norms of motherhood include the expectation that a mother has a high degree of control over her own body, her personal mothering performance, and her child.

We live in a completely backwards society that does not appreciate mothers unless there are strings attached.

These strings are unrealistic expectations for us and of us.

• bounce back after having a baby
• look “good” all the time
• always smile
• be cheery and happy regardless of life’s circumstances
• dress up regularly
• wear make-up
• work, but take care of your kids
• love your kids, but don’t smother them
• loose weight
• be sexy, but not like that, like this…
• don’t breastfeed in public, but don’t bottle feed
• look like a Jenner/Kardashian
• work out twice a day
• make self-care a priority, but don’t ignore the kids

It is true, we have one day a year that we are celebrated. But let’s be REAL here- Mother’s Day is NOT enough to honor all that us mothers do for our families, let alone what we have to endure as mothers in this wild world we live in. Is Mother’s Day enough to combat all of the unrealistic pressure our society puts on us? No. The answer is simply NO.

In partnership with Three Boudoir, we had a photo shoot to SMASH the societal “norm” of what a “HOT MOM” is.

Mothers are plagued with:

• fear of failure
• self-doubt
• bullying
• relentless (unrealistic) expectations
• constant judgement
• living up to society’s “standards”

This is enough to make a mom go bananas! So, we as a collective need to stand up to society and redefine what motherhood is and take back our power as moms!

The days of these unrealistic rules society has governed mothers with is over.

Age: 40
Occupation: Social Entrepreneur, owner Orlando Mom Collective
Kids: 4 (ages 20, 18, 10, 6)

The societal norm that we’re supposed to conform to after having kids is B.S….. The amount of pressure that is put on women (but especially moms) is a burden that we should not have to bear. 

If society focused more on mental health, loving relationships, communication and overall wellbeing, we as a society, would be in a much better place.

This false “Instagram” and “Kardashian” world that women are led to believe is “reality” is wreaking havoc on moms everywhere.

Age: 33
Occupation: Occupation Registered Dietitian, turned SAHM and OMC Executive Assistant
Kids: 2

I hate the narrative that my body should look the same as it did two pregnancies and two c-sections ago because this body did something that previous body could only dream of doing.

Age: 33
Occupation: Entrepreneur
Kids: 2

The societal norm that we’re supposed to look like after having kids is trash. It does nothing but make mothers feel bad for not meeting the “norm.” Each mother has a different birth story, and a different after birth story. There are too many factors at play that expecting every mother to snap back into their pre-baby body doesn’t make sense. When a woman becomes a mother, we change physically and chemically.

Age: 46
Occupation: Former teacher now SAHM, fiber artist, and seamstress
Kids: 3 Kids: 22yo girl and 4&7yo boys

Societal “norms” about our bodies going back to the way it was before we had kids, in my opinion is dumb. Things change when it goes through something intense. Think about a cake, it’s made of different items and once being baked in an oven, the items are no longer able to be separated. Our bodies are “baking” a baby, however we’re not the same size as an oven and our bodies need to loosen up joints to open our hips and internal organs get shifted to make room for a growing human. So for society to think our bodies are the same as it was before having a pregnancy is just ridiculous. Heck, think about a car accident. The vehicle gets crunched and can only get back to “normal” after loads of cosmetic help. We are not cars and should not be forced to go through rigorous work in hopes to look like we used to. Our bodies are amazing and we should love ourselves.

Age: 39
Occupation: Stay at home mom + Chaos Coordinator
Kids: 3 (19, 16, 13)

I have always given into the societal ‘norm’ for fear of being judged and criticized. But this mom is learning to embrace her body and rock that 2 piece, wear that crop top with pride, embrace my tiger stripes. Everyday is a new day to find something new to love about myself.

We as moms need to break free of societal ‘norms’. Mothers are ‘supposed’ to have it all together 24/7 and that stigma needs to be squashed, because no one has it all together ALL the time. When we let other moms see that we are are struggling they will be more comfortable to allow themselves the freedom to do the same.

Age: 35
Occupation: English professor and writer
Kids: 4 beautiful kids

I hate the societal norm of both bouncing back but also having a mom body. I just want to be me. Without having to be told you look good for having 4 kids. Or you don’t look like a mom. I just want to look and feel good. Period.

Age: 38
Occupation: Social Media/Marketing Manager
Kids: 6, age 12 and under

I feel like I’m climbing an endless mountain with no ability to reach the top, the desired body that society screams at me I must have. I just want my body to not be held against impossible standards and to be loved and accepted for its strength and ability to bring amazing humans into this earth.

Age: 43
Occupation: Pediatric Nurse (RN, BSN, CPN—soon to be MSN in Dec!!!)
Kids: 3

The societal norm is a result of social media and filters. Everyone has to look a certain way. But that’s not true. Filters are fake. There is no “perfect” photo to post. Post natural. Post the chaos. Post the real stuff so we can all know we are in the same boat! Inner beauty goes way further than outer and this world is too ugly right now-we need more inner beauty to shine through.

Age: 40
Occupation: Knowledge Manager/Content Manager
Kids: 2

Society has these expectations for size, time and have any focus on how Moms feel. Our kids don’t care how fast we “bounce back” or if we “gain back” after losing weight. They love us and want a Mama to give hugs and encouragement and watch that new trick they can do. We should put more focus on what our kids need from us than what society thinks about us. We’d be much happier.

Empowering

Awakening

Uplifting

These are REAL “HOT” WOMEN…confident women that do not let society determine their worth!

Oh yea, they are moms too.

Age: 40
Occupation: Social Entrepreneur, owner Orlando Mom Collective
Kids: 4 (ages 20, 18, 10, 6)

Thoughts on being a part of a boudoir photo shoot…

At first it was a scary thought BUT once I was surrounded by these amazing women, all of that doubt faded away. There is something freeing and liberating while doing a shoot like this. The confidence boost and freedom that you feel are indescribable in words. Everything you feel when you imagine how the images look is exactly what the “moment” feels like. It is the boost every woman needs.

Age: 33
Occupation: Occupation Registered Dietitian, turned SAHM and OMC Executive Assistant
Kids: 2

Thoughts on being a part of a boudoir photo shoot…

Age: 40
Occupation: Knowledge Manager/Content Manager
Kids: 2

Thoughts on being a part of a boudoir photo shoot…

I think every mom should give a boudoir shoot a shot. Sometimes seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes/lens is just the thing you need to see that you are already “goals”! We can be our biggest critic but when we let the negative thoughts take a back seat and let a professional capture the real us, we can see we’ve been sexy all along.

Age: 33
Occupation: Entrepreneur
Kids: 2

Thoughts on being a part of a boudoir photo shoot…

Moms should do a boudoir photoshoot to visually see that they are still sexy in their new bodies. We spend most of our days looking and feeling like a hot mess. The photoshoot is our own personal event that creates a space for us to shop for ourselves again and look good for ourselves again. The photographer allows us to cover parts of our bodies that we don’t like and captures the essence of our beauty. It is a great form of self love.

Age: 46
Occupation: Former teacher now SAHM, fiber artist, and seamstress
Kids: 3 Kids: 22yo girl and 4&7yo boys

Thoughts on being a part of a boudoir photo shoot…

We see the world through our own eyes and literally look down at ourselves (because our eyes are at the top of our body). We look down and see boobs, belly, legs, feet. We look down at the scale. We look down and pass judgement on ourselves. More often than not we only see ourselves as we look down or in the mirror where our judgment continues to be passed upon ourselves. Doing a boudoir photo shoot gives us an opportunity to see ourselves from someone else’s point of view. The photos show us in a way that is natural and real. The photographers help you to feel comfortable which brings forward the confidence in ourselves that often gets suppressed. Looking back at the images, knowing how much fun it was and how comfortable you felt, you’ll know that you really are sexy.

Age: 39
Occupation: Stay at home mom + Chaos Coordinator
Kids: 3 (19, 16, 13)

Age: 38
Occupation: Social Media/Marketing Manager
Kids: 6, age 12 and under

Thoughts on being a part of a boudoir photo shoot…

Age: 35
Occupation: English professor and writer
Kids: 4 beautiful kids

Thoughts on being a part of a boudoir photo shoot…

Age: 43
Occupation: Pediatric Nurse (RN, BSN, CPN—soon to be MSN in Dec!!!)
Kids: 3

Thoughts on being a part of a boudoir photo shoot…

A mom should do a boudoir shoot to remind herself that through all of the battle wounds of having kids, she is still beautiful! Beautiful is you-as you are! And proving to yourself you can get comfortable within a shoot like that is so empowering!

DO IT FOR YOU

Take your power back mama and do THIS for YOU!

You deserve to feel like the queen you are.

BUT we also want you to know that you don’t have to have a photoshoot to #JoinOurMovement

Simply share a photo of you that you LOVE and FEEL amazing in!!

Tag us @orlandomomcollective and use #REALMomSummer

We’d love to share your photo on our platform!